From Gay or Lesbian to Bi: Stories of a Second Coming-Out

Some people think they already know their identity. They call themselves gay or lesbian. But sometimes their desires change. They discover they also fall for other people. This is called a second coming-out.

This phenomenon is also called 'coming in'. It is about people rediscovering their identity. They thought they had found their 'box'. But life is sometimes different than expected.

A woman tells her story. She had always been lesbian. She had never thought about men. But one day that changed. She suddenly felt something new. She no longer understood herself. This was confusing and emotional for her.

Many people in the LGBTQ+ community recognize this feeling. Bisexuality is not always easy to understand. Even within the community, there is sometimes misunderstanding. Some people do not believe in bisexuality. This makes the second coming-out extra difficult.

Yet more and more people choose to be honest. They accept their bisexual identity. They talk about it with friends and family. This takes a lot of courage and strength.

The reactions are not always positive. Some friends do not understand it. They think the person is confused. Others are very understanding and supportive.

Experts say that sexual identity can change. This is normal and human. People grow and change over the years. That also applies to their feelings and desires.

The magazine Têtu focuses on these stories. Photographer Louise Quignon created beautiful photos for the article. The personal stories show that identity is complex. There is no simple solution or answer.

The most important thing is that people can be themselves. Without judgment and with understanding from others. The LGBTQ+ community must be a safe place. Also for people rediscovering their identity.

The message is clear: bisexuality is real and valid. A second coming-out is brave. Everyone deserves respect and acceptance. Even if their identity changes.